Region Beta Paradox: Why We Stay Stuck in Comfort Zones

Caffeinated Thought of the Week:

Ever watch someone in a job, relationship, or living situation stay way too long even though they don’t want to be there? Maybe it’s not the worst scenario ever, but you don’t want to be there in the future, and your gut tells you that there’s a much better situation out there.

The Region Beta Paradox, also known as the Paradox of the Comfort Zone, explains this phenomenon. If things are “comfortable” but not hostile or terrible, you are more likely to simply put up with a mediocre situation because it will take more effort to work your way to the “ideal” circumstances.

Think about it:

• Job: Update resume, apply, interview, deal with the unknown of the future job. What if the new job isn’t any better? Give your 2 weeks’ notice, and start over again.
• Relationship: Have difficult break-up conversations, deal with break-up emotions, go through a single season, and start dating again. What if the new relationship isn’t any better?
• Living Situation: Find a new apartment, pack up your things, move everything, and make the new apartment cozy. What if the new place isn’t any better?

“Wait,” you might be thinking, “it sounds like you’re convincing us to stay in our current situation!” Now you see why this paradox is so dangerous!

Quote of the Week:

“Do one thing every day that scares you.” - Eleanor Roosevelt

Challenge of the Week:

Here’s what I want to encourage you to do:

1. Define what is ideal in your circumstance. How will you know what type of relationship or job you’re looking for if you can’t describe it?

2. Then pivot or persevere:

   • Pivot: Be bold and courageous and take those first steps for change.
   • Persevere: If you think your current situation has the ability to reach your ideal, then you must PUSH for change. Have the tough conversations with the people involved.

But tread lightly with perseverance—this is where many people get stuck because the other people involved will “change” a little for a short time, but the situation may never truly reach your ideal. If they’re not receptive to meaningful change, then PIVOT is your answer.

God has such a specific plan for your life, but sometimes it requires stepping outside your comfort zone. The path to growth often lies beyond what feels safe. I believe in you—take that first step of faith.